Forgiving Without Limits

Congratulations! You have made it to the last section on forgiveness and it's time for you to create a daily habit of forgiving yourself and others. No more self-hate and living with regret. You can no longer hold grudges or continue to talk bad about people who have hurt you. Today you are making the decision to let go of everything. You will forgive like God forgives and learn to love yourself and others without limits.

Take Action: The moment someone offends you, it is your job to mentally process what happened to you. Figure out how it made you feel, why you felt that way, and the impact that your offenders actions will have on your life. If and when you are ready, address your offender by letting them know how you feel. This open dialogue will allow you to get things off of your chest and keep you from harboring hate in your heart. It will also give your offender the opportunity the to take responsibility for their actions.

Realize that there is no guarantee that they will ever admit that they wronged you. Let God deal with them. You just focus on forgiving your offenders and getting free from the hurt and pain they caused you. Speaking up and out is necessary for your health and freedom. Even if your thoughts and feelings only make it to a notebook or journal, you have to let them out. If you can't have a one on one conversation towards them and consider writing out your experience in a journal. Once you are done with this process, choose to forgive the person even if you never receive an apology.

Getting God involved in this process is essential. With Him, you can do and overcome the impossible. Remember that forgiveness is always for you and never for your offenders. Holding pain or hate in your heart is unhealthy and does not contribute to your loving yourself unconditionally. Letting go and forgiving puts you back in God's good graces and releasing the burden of hate in your heart. Forgiving others is an act of self-love, wholeness, and freedom.

If you are having a hard time forgiving your offenders, by saying a daily affirmation of "I forgive (insert their name) for (insert what they did)". Or you could say, "I forgive like God forgives." Say these affirmations every morning when you wake up and every evening before going to bed. While repeating these affirmations out loud, visualize yourself forgiving that person and being completely free from the hurt and pain that they caused you. Remember that your words have the power to change things. Also, speak these scriptures out loud daily and believe that you will be set free all pain associated with a lack of forgiveness. Repeat the above steps and previous sections as often as needed.

Scriptures on Forgiveness

Matthew 5:15-16 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Psalm 103:10-14 – He does not deal with us according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us.  As a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear him. For he knows our frame; he remembers that we are dust.

Ephesians 4:31-32 – Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another as God in Christ forgave you.

Mark 11:25 – And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.

Colossians 3:13 – Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.

Matthew 6:12 – From the Lord’s Prayer – “And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.

There is Freedom in Forgiveness!